What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

not everyone you’re ready for will be ready for you. the energy you possess, the passion you possess, the love you possess. not everyone will be ready for the light that beams and magic that spills from your chest. do not let impatience or loneliness lower your standards. Billy Chapata What do you stand for? Somehow it is usually the simple questions that stump me, I have learnt that simple is not always easy. What are the qualities that you put your faith and trust in? What makes you light up? What would you fight for or give up everything for? What you stand for helps build your character What you stand for guides you to your purpose What you stand for supports your courage muscles What you stand for guides how you live What you stand for demonstrates what you believe it with an unwavering faith, and know that whatever happens you will be ready to make the required changes or decisions in life to live for what you stand in. I stand for love, peace, equality, justice...

I am sharing a post from Maxi McCoy that really resonated with me today. Why you can  FORGET BEING ‘PRODUCTIVE’ RIGHT NOW. When the world came to a screeching halt, it taught us so much more than we expected. We've learned, painfully, the depth of our pre-existing vulnerabilities in communities that need us the most. We've remembered, the hard way, that we quite literally have nothing without our health, both individually and collectively. We have been reminded of the heroes that already existed. The people who were on the frontlines of our functioning society are the same ones on the frontlines of a global health war: our nurses, our teachers, our mothers. For those of us whose lives haven't been utterly turned upside down by loss: of loved ones, of health, or of financial stability ... we've been thrust into a situation that's uncomfortable. One that requires us to be at home with ourselves and at home with our relational realities and at home with...

THERE MUST BE A STARTING POINT at any juncture of development. You must start from where you are, not from where you want to be . - Steps to Knowledge One of my absolute favourite lessons on the Journey, a woman in Uganda told me to just start with what you have in front of you. Use what you have in your space. When she told me I got so annoyed because I was of the view that we needed so much more to start our project. A laptop, a business plan and the list went on. So if you don't start where you are with what you have how would you get to the laptop and the plan? Just start! Can't you write the business plan? Must you type it on a laptop? These things will come when you start I got it! It resonated there and then Stop waiting on the perfect moment to start something, to start anything! Be willing, be courageous, be ready! Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Mad...

Mindfulness -the art of being aware of what is happening in the present moment - Tich Na Haan One of the lessons I am currently learning is about being mindful. Being in the present moment when I am doing something or being around others, just being present full stop. Confessions on the Journey - My phone has become part of my body. I walk around with it, I sleep with it, I go to the bathroom with it, I run with it. The only time I don't have it with me is when I am exercising with my trainer.  With mindfulness, I realised, that when the phone is with me I am not present where I am. I want to answer the messages, to check the IG, you name it, I find an excuse to be away from where I am and in another place aka the phone. With mindfulness, being present involves giving everyone and everything my full attention until I am finished. Listen, it is harder than I thought because of old habits and conditioning. Since I have been mindful, I have realised that I enjoy being in the m...

We do indeed create our own reality but we also influence each other’s reality. Co-creation is a collective enterprise. Carolyn Myss There is an entire debate in many parts of the US about reopening for business  because the economy is suffering.  When I first heard that I was shocked, and admittedly a little angry. I interpreted it to mean that the economy's suffering is more important than human's suffering. I took it to mean that the businesses survival must come first above any person' survival. People depend on the economy and the businesses to survive, rather than we need people, healthy people, to rebuild the economy and open businesses which wil now fit our post Rona world. I really had to ground myself after seeing and putting meaning to this. There is a school of thought that humans cannot do with businesses and working. Given our history and our current reality this indeed seems the case. I was hoping that this pause due to the Rona would provide us wit...

Beliefs demand loyalty. If you try to move away from the things you believe in, they will punish you. The belief will make you feel guilty. Guilt is your punushment for abandoning what you believe Iyanla Vanzant Many of us  will go down fighting literally for what we believe. Don't get me wrong, I am not judging the choice to fight at all, I am merely making an observation. We fight for what we believe in We make it a point to stand in those beliefs. My lesson has been balance. What if those beliefs are not serving you anymore, not promoting your highest self? When we question those beliefs we feel guilty When we go against our beliefs in our actions we feel guilty. The balance is in knowing what brings you peace and what is serving your highest self. Question the beliefs when you are not at peace because usually when we are not at peace it means we must make another choice What Beliefs Are You Loyal to? Are they Punishing you? Are you at peace? Peace Have you re...

if no one else has said this to you. i am saying this to you. there is genius in you. there is splendor. wonder. gifts beyond gifts . Nayyirah Waheed Lessons in Getting Out of My Own Way 1.     Mixed Messages Confuse the Universe – be clear, get clear, make a decision, take action, learn as you go then adjust 2.     Resist the temptation to use the words “try” “ah trying ah ting” substitute it with I will, I must, I can – so much more powerful 3.     Stop watering dead things 4.     The Universe never judges or criticizes us, it only takes us at the value we place on ourselves and then reflects that back to us in our daily lives 5.     Stop hanging out with the “what’s wrong and who’s to blame crew” – hang out with the possibility tribe 6.     Get Still (stop the busyness,running,defending everything, fighting, hiding under a cause) Ask Yourself – what changes must I make to move ...

I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle: be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:1,2 Yesterday I looked at what they called an IG Battle between two musicians. In this time there are so many innovative ways that are cropping up to keep us entertained and connected. The premise of the IG Battle is that two musicians go against one another and they play or show their greatest works. Apart from the fact that I throughly enjoyed the music, I learnt two things from the event 1. Keep it Simple - Sometimes Less is More. One of the musicians came on IG with a full band. One came with a guitar and a laptop - the full band was plauged with technical difficulties that the a huge chunk of the session had to be aborted. 2. Share your gifts with the world, whether the world is big or small, share it because your gifts will heal you and it will heal someone else. Imagine if the painters, writers, singers, danc...

You wasting time being in competition mode when this universe abundant and your expression is completely unique. Dounia Confessions on the Journey - I have been looking on at the number of people using the socia media platforms and Zoom to spread their messages during our new normal. I have been judging some of them. I felt that some felt forced, artificial. I admit that there was some judgement in the mix. Forgive me! I have also been asked to join in the conversation by four people thus far, to lend my voice to the space. This uncertain time I have been told, calls for a voice of reason in the mix and I can add to the collective voice of reason. I gave the request some thought and I chose to decline. I felt a strong urge in this time to go within. I felt a strong urge to not force it, I felt competitive in the space and that feeling did not bring me any peace. It is a time for collaboration and unity. I believe that I can continue sharing my lessons in a way that is authenti...

The Power of Mindfulness : Mindfulness is the energy of being aware of what is happening in the present moment. Recognize things as they are . Titch Nan Han I am always fasicnated  when I am led to a message just in time and on time.  A talk on mindfulness popped up on my feed over the past few days. This lesson resonated because I have found myself lately doing many things at the same time, then I get sidetracked and forgot my first intention. I sometimes have to laugh at myself and ask myself " Ok lady, what were you really wanting to do?" Or sometimes I may be doing a task and still thinking about what I could have done better with the task that I just completed. Then there is the anxiety of not completing the other tasks ahead of me in a timely manner. Mindfulness reminds me to be present where I am. All in. Then move on to the next thing. Where ever I am, be all there. Fully! I always thought that multitasking was so cool. Women in my family were praised f...

This world is a book and your soul is the title page. ~ Rumi I have been doing quite a bit of introspection during this time, asking myself some questions which I would not normally ask, but this is not a normal time. I came accross a reading from Hiro Boga that summed it up so well that I have shared it below Forget handling your to-do list; how do you handle the weight of the world? The thing is, the weight of the world is not yours to carry — at least, not all by yourself. You are responsible for doing your part, for contributing, through your choices and actions, to the wholeness and healing of the world. But you are just one among many, many others who also work diligently towards this end. All you have to do is your part. If you want to live in a world filled with kindness, love, safety, respect, creativity and compassion, then begin by cultivating those qualities in your inner kingdom first. As you embody them in your own life, you change your personal ecology, ...

I know my higher self is over me asking questions I already know just so I can get confirmation outside of myself . Azuree I was having a conversation with someone very dear to me about post Covid. What my strategy ought to be post Covid. I set out some ideas, how I see them rolling out, writing a book, some other programmes. I had a mouthful. She listened intently and her response was "I strongly suggest that your strategy out to be SELF BELIEF, believe in your self more and own it" Well, confessions on the journey, I certainly did not expect that response at all. And what resonated more is that she was absolutely spot on! Simply, believe. We all know that simple is not always easy What great can we do without self belief? What great can we do when the doubts over take us? Not much! So the strategy has been set - Believe in yourself or who's gonna? Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to U...

Love Gives Without Limits, For it Cannot be Contained ACIM One of my favourite lessons on love is learning that I AM Love. Learning that I don't have to go looking for something that I already am, what I must do is remember who I am and look at the barriers that I have erected to give and receive love. This leasson has put so much in perspective for me especially after a really difficult divorce. I was in a mindset of ,I have to go out looking for love, then that switched to wait maybe I will never find love so let me just stop looking. Now I know that - the search is over - You are it! You are the Love that you so seek. When that clicked and I believed it, oh my word, how things changed. How I showed up in the world, How I behaved, what I chose and declined. I remembered that love can take many forms,  there are many ways that love can show up and there are many things masquerading as love that are not at all loving. Love does not bargain Love does not demand we hide...

"Go on your own journey. Don’t let others hold you back; don’t hold them back. Don’t judge their journey, and don’t let them judge yours."   - Melody Beattie, an American author of self-help books on codependent relationships. Your journey is your own. That sounds simple but we all know simple is not always easy. You get the little nudges from the Universe, you get the subtle messages and reminders. No one else So when we attempt to fit into a box we feel trapped because it is not our journey nor is it our box. To walk your path takes courage and discipline, those qualities must be developed. Many times when we think we are being tested all it is may be the place where courage and discipline are being strengthened to allow you to set off on the next path on your Journey. Pay attention  Don't fight it because what you resist will persist! Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Uncondi...

You will spend years saving others and forget yourself. One day, you will tell them, 'but I gave up so much of myself!' and you know what they will rightfully ask, 'did we ask you to?' Ijeoma Umebinyuo Intentions are critical. The why behind what we are doing. There are so many actions being taken out of fear, habits, obligations and denial.  Those actions when done repeatedly tend to bring about a feeling of resentment. The joy of doing and giving swiftly disappear. It is important to set our intentions early so that we can be aware of why we are doing what we choose to do and what are our expectations. When our why and our expections are unclear both to us and to others,  there can be a number of implications.  Ulterior motives usually always end up in a messy situation. Confusion, resentment, failure to live up to expectations and the list continues. Communicating our why's and intentions can be a challenge. It takes courage to set ...