Forgiveness is Essential
Scientists, physicians, and psychologists who have researched the relationship between stress and illness have concluded that the ability or inability to forgive affects the outcome of serious illness. People who have a forgiving nature increase their chances of recovery. Carolyn Myss
There are events and people in our past that we still hold on to for many different reasons.
On my own journey, I reflected that I held on to views and did not forgive because I wanted to be right. I wanted the other person to be wrong. I also believed that justice was not served.
So I stood my ground until that happened.
Sometimes it never does. Shall I stay mad or hold on to the pain?
According to Carolyn Myss, genuine forgiveness is a self-initiated mystical act that requires the assistance of grace to release you from the compulsive and often self-righteous chatter of the ego, which continually enforces a position of entitled anger or hurt.
Many of us have been taught that once we are "good", life will reflect that back to us.
Newsflash - everyone is not taught that and life is not linear, there are are so many lessons for us to learn in the duality of life. We appreciate heat when we are in the cold for a period of time, we appreciate when the rain comes after a drought
We are taught that our goodness deserves a reward and other people's badness should not be tolerated- most times, they need to pay.
Forgiveness releases us from the past, to move on, to learn from the incident. Forgiveness is about us, a personal act of release. It does not mean you condone what others have done or that you are no longer a good person and will "lose" your reward
It simply means that you recognize that the past cannot change, that you are ready to move forward with a new slate and are done with the unfinished businesses.
Any other choice is one of stress and stagnation
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
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