What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Heartfelt gratitude is a key to abun- dance. It unlocks the great resources of the Universe. Diana Cooper Usually when I have book events there are people around me who assist me and allow me to focus on just that, showing up and doing what I am supposed to do! When I am out of Trinidad I have two people on "Team Akosua" In Trinidad, "Team Akosua" is different I ask my mother and my aunt and other members of my family. For this upcoming book they are all out of the country and truth be told I was panicking before I sat still and asked the Universe to guide and calm me down.  Just as I did that I was guided to my Goddess friend Erica. I asked her for her assistance and boom! Its a whole new "Team Akosua"! Listen, the Universe never ever ever leaves a void, it is also self correcting! When something leaves your life, something enters and usually it is something just as or even more awesome, once you pay attention and are open and willing! There is ...

Life becomes stagnant when people protect their stored issues - Michael Singer What are the rules you have or have been given about living and life? And do you know why you have or were given these rules? Some of my house rules growing up were: "No, we don't speak about that around your father" " Our family are strict Catholics, there will be no going to small church" "Women and men have special roles" I never ever thought about why these were the house rules! I never even questioned them. They were automatic, passed down and really,they were law in the house and the tribe! When someone asked why, like my brave cousin who was very outspoken, there was no answer or it was its just the way things are done round here! There is never ever one way to live, nope sorry there isn't and I have learnt that if you live by some of these 'rules"  it may allow for little or no joy, enthusiasm, spontaneity and excitement that is a hell o...

I know that a relationship built on love feels GO OD. It should bring you joy- not just some time but most of the time. It should never require losing your voice, your self-respect, or your dignity. And whether you are 25 or 65, it should involve bringing all of who you are to the table- and walking away with even more- Oprah Winfrey Confessions on the journey- I am angry and disappointed in myself, I really am! Why? I have been ignoring signs, not paying attention to my gut feelings, settling for less than I know I deserve and encouraging bad behavior! Why? Fear. Plain and simple! and a bit of bad habits as well.  I am disappointed in myself for not putting the lessons I learnt along the journey into practice! And here's the thing, that I learnt - when you know, your behavior changes, and if you don't know then your behavior doesn't change! So I thought I knew because my behavior was not changing. I really didn't act like I knew. I knew the relationship was...

I think that what we want, we have to give to the world- kindness, tolerance, generosity,justice, even mercy. I would encourage you before you die you've done something wonderful for humanity. Maya Angelou Saturday evening I was invited to talk to the St Philomen's Rising Star Youth Ministry! Quietly, simply they have started a revolution! They have vowed to encourage big dreams and bigger visions for the young people in the South of the island, I spent two hours with the young people in this group and it warmed my heart so much. It reminded me to dream big, to dream big to dream big....... Why have we stopped dreaming big? What is your reason? Mine is fear and "reality" well thanks to the time I spent with these young ladies and gentlemen that is over, I'm dreaming big, believing in myself and going for it- who vex lorse! Do some dreaming today, and make it big! Peace!

And we start as we mean to carry on This positive vibration is cleansing And let this be the focus Not what drew you from your center But your ability to return there Aligned Peaceful and Power Filled "Who Jah Bless, No Man Shall Curse, Thank God, We're Past The Worst" Natalie Stewart one of my best teachers on the journey said to me that my belief system will reflect on the outside, meaning what you believe about everything will show up in your life. Sort out the beliefs and only you can do that. And then she introduced me to an Oath of Manifestation to read it and believe it!  That Oath is a mind shift,  and the thing that I learnt is change your mind, change your life! I guess I can explain it like affirmations on caffeine! But the key is believing! So what is it for you that you can do to have a mind shift? Because it all starts with you. If you do the same thing daily you will get the same results, nothing will change, start small do a small thi...

you must be willing to lose it all before you can have it all.  What does this mean? It means that until you can let go of everything, you will find it hard to hold onto anything. Detachment is the key. If you are so attached to something that you are deeply unhappy without it, then you are not simply attached, you are addicted Neale Donald Walsh Excerpt from Nyabo(Madam)- Why are you Here? I met my favourite farmer; we were planning a road trip, to the border of Kenya. There was a place she wanted to show me where hybrid maize was grown. “Nyabo, this place will make you smile, it is beautiful. It is a beautiful work. We go!” “Really?” “Yes, but it will be you and I alone, and you will drive.” “How long will the drive be Prossy?” “It will be all day Nyabo, we leave at 7 am and we get there by 7 pm. We will spend one or two nights if the roads are not ok. You will see waterfalls and hills that you will say ahhh Africa!” “If the roads are ok?” “Nyabo...

This resonated with me in a hug way I wanted to share this piece from Danielle La Porte! Take what you need and leave the rest! Peace!! LIFE. It’s all energy. You know this. When we give energy away willingly, intentionally, with  positivity , we get stronger. We become truer, purer, bigger. Power-full. When we give our energy away unconsciously, under duress, as we are victimized, or taken advantage of, when we over-give out of a  sense of deficiency  or obligation, we … don’t get stronger. We constrict, we get depleted, we start to stiffen from fear. THIS IS HOW POWER RETRIEVAL WORKS: You don’t want to ever run into that person. The very thought turns your stomach. Get bigger than it. …  I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete. The love songs that make you sick.  Own the beauty . Sing it for someone else. Take it back .  I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete. The scene of the crim...

"We have a choice. We can spend our whole life suffering because we can’t relax with how things really are, or we can relax and embrace the open-endedness of the human situation, which is fresh, unfixated, unbiased .” Pema Chodron Today was a big day for me! I was able to debut a workshop called "Encounters, Journeys and Self Discovery" to 45 people! Hey, feel the fear and do it anyway, learn as you go along and just do your best! - Show up. Shine. Let it go! I had a lot of fun! and I am ready to learn from it and do some more so it's full speed ahead!!! Grateful for the opportunity to use these 45 people as my "testers"!! Peace!!

Words infuse.  Words refuse.  Words bless.   Words protect.  Words energize.  Words heal. Words create worlds because the universe is always listening .  Danielle La Porte Have you ever watched your words? Like really really pay attention to what you say and how you feel when you say it?  Words.... They create.... Words.... They create..... Words... They create Watch them - see what you are creating! Peace! Jumped into Houston for the next few days... the Journey continues

Thus you are giving away your power when you please others in order to fit in. Or when you follow the opinions of the crowd. Or when you decide that others matter more than you do. Or when you let someone who seems to have more power take charge of you . Iyanla Vanzant The past few days have been a super duper classroom of sorts for me! The book tour packed in a diverse set of places which allowed me to see a variety of people with different backgrounds and perspectives. I have never spoken in an Anglican church before, nor have I been at a Chamber meeting to talk to business leaders but what I have learnt is that people are people everywhere you go, we are all connected by our experiences and stories and as the Course of Miracles say - there is only one of us here! At every event the stories remained the same, how do I balance the fear of not making it with the responsibility of taking care of myself and my family? And here's the thing, love and fear cannot co-exist in the sa...

We all just need to be more loving. Every moment is an invitation to show more compassion, to be a better version of ourselves. It’s simple enough, of course, but not always easy. Any moment we get it right, though, is a moment when we help enlighten the world.  Iyanla  Went off the beaten path today before my first radio interview. I visited a shelter, they feed the people on the streets presently without a home,provide them with medical attention and get this, a place where they can collect their mail/post! I asked the lady, " A place to collect their mail?" She said let us not forget they are human only without a place to live. It made me stop and think, we are all humans, we are all people and a little bit of compassion goes a long way, who knows? we don't know what everyone's story is. Changing the way I describe this brings a different perspective. They are presently without a home, rather than they are homeless. Yea, a total reminder that we all have a st...

Two Truths About Time We all have the same amount. You cannot create more. There are infinite ways to do thing called life. It’s miserable to try to endlessly cram things in; it’s joyful to pare back. You actually have plenty of time, if you get clear on what you desire most.  Kate Courageous Hey peeps I’m touching base as promised. On the journey over to Georgia, I re-read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, one of my absolute favourite tools. I must have read this book about 4 times already but I felt I needed a reminder of being present in the moment and of the importance of presence. Now is all I ever have, this moment and presence is the awareness of that. How freaking awesome is that? To be reminded that each and every moment is to be savoured, each and every moment is to be present. I have been focusing on the future and neglecting   and missing the now so this was a great reminder and here is what happened with my reminder, everything just suddenly started to ...

Affirm, pray, focus, ommm .  Danielle La Porte The Journey takes me to Atlanta Georgia for a bit, Nyabo (Madam) - Why are you Here? is being launched in the US this week and this is where the train  begins. To say I am grateful is a huge understatement- I am dripping with gratitude! I have been hearing everyday this week that something is being added to the schedule and I just say okay in awe, humility and gratitude! The schedule is packed, two radio interviews, a Women's brunch, feature speaker at a business meeting and to end it off I go to a church to talk, on a Sunday to booth! Well who knew???? So, look out for the updates and see you soon!! Peace!!

Every situation, every condition and every circumstance present in your life today is the consequence of choice you made or did not make; a thought you held and the words you have or have not spoken. A consequence is what unfolds in relationship to how you do or do not honor your intentions and commitments. It is the result, outcome, effect, ramification and the aftermath of everything you think, feel, say and do. In many cases, you may also face a consequence for what you choose not to do. Your life today is a function of what you did or did not do yesterday. Your life tomorrow, next week, next year and for the next 3, 5 and 10years will be a reflection and a consequence of what you think, say, do and/or fail to do today. Iyanla I saw my grandpa (Daddy) yesterday, for the first time since 2005. Daddy and I were a team! I was his first born grandchild and he never let anyone forget or told anyone who was willing to listen or not listen even, until people would come up to me ra...

Authenticity is about returning and magnifying who you are, instead of trying to become someone who you think you should be. It’s about peeling off the false adornments and standing wholly, holy, and true. What Did I  Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love  So my granma asks me why don't I get a "real job." I told her I found my purpose and my path, she asked me what does that mean? It means - what I am doing feels right! It just feels right. You know when you are on purpose and on the path when you do not have to betray yourself, Carolyn Myss (one of my favorite teachers says it well). You are not put in a position to betray yourself You are no longer in a position where you have to negotiate your sense of integrity, which is another act of self betrayal. You don't have to compromise who you are! It isn't costing you your power! It isn't costing you your psyche! It isn't costing you your soul! Yo...

Truth does not vacillate; it is always true ACIM (A Course in Miracles) There are some of us who are recovered "I'm not good enough" addicts, and some of us who are still recovering. As addicts we think not good enough, feel not good enough,drink not good enough, eat not good enough and shoot ourselves up with a daily does of not good enough. Sometimes we expend  great deal of time and energy chasing things and people that are not good enough for us. Often, to get these not good enough people, we will sleep with them, only to discover they are not worth the time and energy we spent trying to get them. When you are a not good enough addict, you can't do the right thing because you are not good enough. However, you will beat yourself up because you are not good enough to do what you need to do. The truth is,as long as you believe   you are not good enough, you will never feel good enough. And as long as you are not good enough, you cannot, will not, take res...

“Each moment is just what it is. It might be the only moment of our life; it might be the only strawberry we’ll ever eat. We could get depressed about it, or we could finally appreciate it and delight in the preciousness of every single moment of our life.”  Pema Chodron I was sitting at my computer and as my friend says " over thinking " Really wracking my brain and retracing my steps on what  missteps  I made with a situation and getting more and more frustrated.  At that moment I decided to get up and read, take a break from my own overthinking and boom Pema Chodron was my choice.  I read the quote above I was literally screaming OMG, you do it every time Universe, ok I hear ya! Lead me straight to what I needed.  It's about the moment, everything is about the moment so why do I keep fighting to prolong the past and the moment? Just enjoy the moment and know that each one, each moment will be different. Focus on that rather than trying to ...

We’re all scared of the new. Shy and reverent. Reverently shy. But jump. Fall in. Danielle La Porte Dear Akosua I know that you You have hopes and dreams Oh yes you do. And you have goals, that you want to achieve. And I hope that you, I hope you know by now  That you can have everything you want. Everything you need If you take the limits off of me. There is no limit to, what I can do. I'm trying to  get through  to you. Say IT, without doubt And have faith in me. Because there's nothing Impossible to believe If only you would learn to put Your trust in me. Put all fear aside And you will see. Signed, and your's always God (Universe, Buddha- call me what you want) Peace!!