Choices

Choice - to select your preference or desire from the possibilities presented. Your choice is your power, it is a function of your free will given to you by the creator. When you make a choice you are saying to the Universe that there is a desire, an idea, a vision, an intention, a dream that you are choosing to advance. When you fail to make a choice you are saying to the Universe that you have no power because every choice you don't make is a choice you are making. - Iyanla Vanzant

I was having a conversation with a someone yesterday, there was a difference of opinion on a matter at hand. I said in the end it is always a matter of choice. They did not believe this as many times "people have no choice"
This led to a further discussion about  what is "having no choice"
I believe that we always have a choice, this is where our power lies.
Making no choice is also a choice
Blaming others is also a choice
Accepting a situation is also a choice
regardless of the circumstances, any move that we make is based on a choice we make either consciously or unconciously.

So let's say one was sent to jail for a crime that they did not commit, the choice there is - what do I now do with this situation that I have found myself in, one which it seems at the moment that I have absolutely no control over?
Therein lies the choice
What do you do in a situation, any situation based according to Iyanla, the possibilities presented.

Many of our choices are based on our beliefs- and many of our beliefs are never questioned. The beliefs we have either comes from our family, our parents, our experiences, religion and society. Beliefs demand loyalty. When one believes in something they remain loyal to it, going against the belief brings up guilt. So rather than feel guilty about questioning the belief or discomfort from being different, we make a choice.
Mind you, I am not saying anyone's choice is wrong, to me if it is working it will be reflected in how you live your life,in how you feel, in your health, in your relationships
The most beautiful thing is, with free will, we can choose again, choices are unlimited until we die
So, how do you make choices?
Do you do it based on fear or love?
Do you make choices based on unquestioned core beliefs or not?
Do you make choices to avoid uncomfortable situations? (this one is me!! my hand is up!)
Do you make choices to enhance how you feel?
Do you make intentional choices?
One thing I have learnt is - every day in every way we are all making choices
Look at your life and it will tell you how well those choices are

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

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  1. Melissa Juanfran24 August 2018 at 23:42

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