What are we really in control of apart from ourselves?

"No judgments, no expectations and give up the need to know what happens tomorrow" - Carolyn Myss, author

Embracing Uncertainty
They say that the most successful people are the ones that have a certain comfort level with uncertainty, in fact Tony Robbins says it the best "The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with" 

Listen the last few months have been uncertain central! I have been I must confess a certainty queen! I want to know what happens maybe even down to the minute. Since leaving Trinidad its been sooooo different, to be honest right now I am not even certain what today is! It has been scary really but I always go back to what is the lesson here?

Absolute certainty is not something I strive for anymore. I've learned the hard way that destiny usually looks upon our most strident convictions with amusement, or perhaps even pity. (Oh, those silly humans! So desperate for their absolutes!) Sometimes it seems like the only job of the world is to gently (or not so gently) separate us from our deepest assurances, exposing us once again to that ultimate moral teaching tool: humility.

Of course, it's not always a pleasant experience to have our certainties stripped away.
Sureness is something like a neck brace, which we clamp around our lives, hoping to somehow protect ourselves from the frightening, constant whiplash of change. Sadly, the brace doesn't always hold. I could list for you a tragicomic litany of all the things I was once mistakenly completely certain about, and I'm sure you can do the same. Maybe you, too, were once absolutely sure that you'd found your great love, or your final best friend, or the perfect mentor, meditation, or medication that would—once and for all—never fail you. And then? Slowly, it seems, we are not so sure after all. Such is our slippery toehold here on Earth, and so it has always been.

So what did I learn today?

My focus must be about joy, curiosity and exploration rather than fear, survival, mediocrity and more of the same. The focus of what I want must be clear. The focus of what I want must be intentional. The focus of what I want must be about creating good rather than avoiding the perceived bad. The focus of what I want must come from an open heart rather than a conflicted head. Focusing on what I want means that I am ready, willing and able to handle all aspects, possibilities and the responsibility of having the things I want. Focusing on what I want demands that I am courageous enough to ask for and expect to have what I want rather than what I think is available. I’ve got to be willing to hear no and ready for a possibility of a negative response, don’t get paralyzed and know what the next steps are. Focusing on what I want requires that I stand in and demonstrate faith, trust, and commitment, even when it is hard.



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