New Comunication skills!

It is not nearly so important how well a message is received as how well it is sent. You cannot take responsibility for how well another accepts your truth; you can only ensure how well it is communicated. And by how well, I don't mean merely how clearly; I mean how lovingly, how compassionately, how sensitively, how courageously, and how completely. Neale Donald Walsh author of Conversations with God


I am so in love with the Universe! It communicates with me so well that love is the only emotion I can describe for the care that the Universe extends to me! Yesterday I wanted to tell a friend of mine something and as I was sitting down thinking and asking myself OK what is my intention for communicating this piece of information I decided to give it some time and do some reading. What would be the first thing I would put my hands on? The quote above! How awesome is that? I cannot take  responsibility for how well another accepts my truth, my responsibility is to communicate lovingly, compassionately and courageously. How many times have I communicated based on ego and fear and the need to be right rather than in love, in courage and in compassion? Funnily enough you get what you give so what would happen is that I would get the same right back at me! I've now learnt how to communicate more effectively! I tried it, was strange at first, but I did it and felt pretty good after!

So what did I learn today?
To free myself of the responsibility of trying to make other people happy to  respect and love them enough to allow them to take care of their own happiness.  To not expect others to behave in a way I want, so I will be happy and make the choice to walk away when the non negotiables are being tested.  To release myself forevermore and know that I alone control my happiness and it is a choice, no matter what anyone else is doing. To Love and respect myself completely.
Peace!!



Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

30 Things I Believe

Image
What is being of service? Looking upon another human being with kindness and compassion and not judgement is a profound act of service and though such a form of service lacks for whistles and bells, this expression of “service” comes from truly understanding the power of your soul and what it means to “look upon another with eyes of grace.” Carolyn Myss 1. I believe in sleep 2. I believe that love can cure it all  3. I believe in feeling my feelings 4. I believe that nature is my best teacher 5. I believe that friends are family minus blood lines 6. I believe that discipline and consistency combined with talent  can and will can create miracles 7. I believe in following my intuition 8. I believe that rest is part of the Journey 9. I believe in that all things are lessons that God will have us learn 10. I believe in choosing the people around you with care 11. I believe that vacations can reboot creativity  12. I believe in joy - doing what brings you joy - and often 13
Read more

What Does Support Look Like to You?

Image
  You save yourself energy when you learn to ask people what they need, instead of assuming you know best then acting on your own impulses. Allowing people to define what support looks like gives you an ability to assess if you have the capacity to show up - Minaa B If someone asks you right now, what does support look like to you, what would be your answer? It takes self reflection , self awareness and more importantly a whole load of authenticity to answer. On the flip side, do you rush to support others without them even asking- there may be times when that is required, however many a time we assume that we know what others want and need. The times when we do assume, after a while a feeling of resentment builds because "how could they be so ungrateful?" or "why are they not seeing their need for my help?" the other classic is "they must need my help to show them because they clearly are not seeing that they need support" We continue to assume what othe
Read more

Sensible Optimism

Image
  Optimism is usually defined as a belief that things will go well. But that's incomplete. Sensible optimism is a belief that the odds are in your favor, and over time things will balance out to a good outcome even if what happens in between is filled with misery. And in fact you  know  it will be filled with misery. You can be optimistic that the long-term growth trajectory is up and to the right, but equally sure that the road between now and then is filled with landmines, and always will be. Those two things are not mutually exclusive." Who told us that all the roads on the Journey of life will be smooth and bump free? And even if you knew or remember who told you, why did you believe it given what you know? What if the blessing, what if the growth, what if the joy is found on the rocky bumpy road? What if? And if it is, we can rest easier that the bumps and rocky roads are designed with us in mind, designed for us to grow, to learn, to live a life that is filled with varie
Read more