What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Free will is a Universal Law! Humans have been given free will to experience, to create and to grow gaining wisdom through their creations regardless if they are constructive or destructive . Sabrina Reber Free will is the ability to make choices and having full responsibility for one's actions (Responsibility - the ability to respond)  Yes we all know that things happen, circumstances occur which we had absolutely nothing to do with. How do you respond? What choices do you make in this instant? Acting from a place of fear and ego is a choice whether conscious or unconscious, what happens when we act from a place of fear and ego? Our lives show us the result. We see it though a lack of peace and contentment when the decision is made, cause and effect is a law, we may get ill, we may attract certain types of people to us. All of this is an attempt by the Universe to say - pay attention, just one more time. Are you  using your free will to enhance your self and the wor...

  I am now receptive to the idea that...some things never grow old. They just get better and go deeper. The Ten Commandments for the New Millennium 1. Thou shalt make it your business to get in touch with God first each day. 2. Thou shalt remember to pray for your mother and father as soon as you are finished praying for yourself. 3. Thou shalt honor thyself enough not to take things that do not belong to you, and this includes other people's people. 4. Thou shalt refrain from telling someone something about somebody until you have told that somebody to their face. 5. Thou shalt refrain from saying anything to anybody that you would be ashamed or afraid to say to God, to God's face. 6. Thou shalt do no less than two good things for yourself each day. 7. Thou shalt do one good thing for another each day. 8. Thou shalt confine all whining, complaining and criticizing to every other Wednesday, between the hours of 2:00am and 3:30am, when the moon is full. When the moon is n...

Abundance is the foundation of "reality" Reality with its inherent overflowing always has more than enough to give There is a more than enough for our need but never enough for our greed" Richard Roer Did you wake up this morning with the feeling that you did not get 'enough" sleep? Then proceeded to get ready for your day with the feeling that there is "not enough" time to do all the the things on your to do list Then the day began with "not enough" money to do or buy something? That is how the feeling of lack starts, continues and persists waking up daily with the feeling and belief that there is never enough. How can you alter that mindset?  By being grateful, by knowing that there is enough As soon as the thought enters my head especially when I wake up I reboot and say thank you for this new day, let's see what I can do with the 24 hours that I now have. 24 whole hours - how can that not be enough time? Practice it, it ...

Make generosity part of your growth strategy. Don’t wait. Don’t wait until your stuff is selling or you’ve got enough of a cushion in your bank account. Don’t wait until you’ve got more time. Give now. Danielle La Porte Say thank you through support and circulation. Beware of getting into the “helping out the less fortunate, oh we’ve been blessed with all this let’s help those other ones who don’t have as much as we do” If that’s the consciousness nothing is ever going to change, that’s not why you help. You help because they are your brothers and sisters who have just as much right to the  abundance as you have. You help as an affirmation of their possibility. You help to level the playing field because you understand the concept of to whom much is given much is required. You help because it is your responsibility to circulate the blessings that you have, because it is your responsibility to leave here better than you met it. How do you support? Just show up! Each...

Just move yourself And glide like a seven-forty-seven And lose you're self in the sky Among the clouds in the heavens 'cause it's alright, alright, alright ... Earth, Wind & Fire Just move yourself because it's alright! It really is! What can happen is you move further along or you end up right where you started. Either  Why stay one place because you believe that some thing ":bad" will happen? Why not move because you have some fear, many times unfounded? Moving transfers the energy, it transfers the fear into fuel Staying still invites more fear, roots you in the comfort zone and provides excuses and rationale for why nothing is changing If you want something new you got to do a new thing - pretty simple logic there for me to follow Peace www.akosuadardaineedwards.com/publications Ted Talk:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7nRGrYc

There are times when, for no apparent reason or for no good reason at all, people decide that you are not likable They may even profess to hate you! They will say things about you or to you that will hurt your feelings Sometimes they will go out of their way just to be mean and nasty to you. No matter how hard you try to make them like you, they won't! This does not make them bad people. Oh no! It simply means that they have their "stuff" going on with them that has nothing to do with you And that will trigger your stuff! That's right! The behaviour of the people who don't like you will bring up your abandonment issues.  Your issues of being rejected Your issues of not being good enough or not doing things right enough The minute you discover that somebody you think is important doesn't like you, all your people pleasing stuff will be triggered, and you will be forced to deal with it.  What a blessing! This is precisely the stuff you need to hea...

When we are triggered by a situation each of us must learn to stand in our power, speak our truth from a place of integrity and ground our light. Choose not to react to the person in an unbalanced way Sabrine Reber I know when I am triggered, I get hot behind the ears, I start getting defensive, I want to prove that I am right, I start smiling, I get snarky and maybe I cut you off. I started paying attention to what triggers me, what triggers a reaction - not a response because a response comes from a different place, from an empowered space, a reaction is off the cuff, it usually comes from a place of fear. I find myself having to apologize for my out of order behaviour when I react rather than respond Knowing what and when I am triggered is a blessing, it means that I am aware and awareness is the first point of either healing or moving forward I am triggered when my intentions are unclear or unloving that is where the trigger-ration starts (I made up that word) Do...

what was never true is not true now, and never will be ACIM Don't you love it how we can justify anything we want to, even when we know in our gut that it does not serve us, when we know it is pure BS? We can make up a great rationale, a great story on what we want to believe even when the truth is staring us in our face. Just because we want it to be how we want it to be.  We can take the facts and twist it or leave out some details to make it "true" for ourselves but the truth is the truth whether we want to believe it or not What's your rationale? " I am not good enough" "He/she is getting a divorce" "I suffer with migraines so I cannot do _____" "I have no time to exercise" "I am too lazy to cook" "It's not the right time" "What is to be will be" And I can go on and on and on But what was never true then in not true now so what's it going to be? The ...

A lie only has power when someone believes it. You need a congregation to have a church, fighters for an army, voters to get elected. You need buyers for wholesale lies. Lie-spreading requires widespread participation. It’s not only that “they”—the government, or organized religions, or the media, or the educators—are cranking out non-truths. It’s that all of us are paying—by choice—for a variety of deceptions with our money, time, and attention. We need to take individual responsibility for the beliefs that animate our lives. We need to acknowledge the ideals that are driving our choices. Danielle La Porte I've come to learn that: 1. Broken pieces stuck together can make a beautiful picture 2. My friends are my mirrors 3. Coconut bake, corn meal bake in fact all types are straight from heaven (bake is a type of bread) 4. I am allergic to fakeness 5. Everyone is magnificent but some forget, others never knew and some don't know the true meaning of magnificence ...

Life goes in cycles. There is a time to do something, and then there is a time to move on - Louise Hay When the time comes for us to move on, the Universe will make us so uncomfortable , it will make us wake up, it will give us signs and signals whether we pay attention or not. Look at nature, there are seasons, there are times for rain, time for sun, time for the poui flowers, time for the sun to shine, and the moon to be full. Human love sameness and control, especially when there are unhealed wounds or stuff backed up that was not healthily released so we want sameness, we want to know what time this happens, what time that happens, we want to hold on for dear life, we want the cycle to last forever Newsflash - it really doesn't work that way Everything is fleeting Everything is for a time, Everything is for a season Know when it is your time to start, when it is your time to move on, it is your time for a change It really will be okay in the end Peace Publicatio...

  Love is freedom. To look for it by placing yourself in bondage is to separate yourself from it .ACIM How many times do we place ourselves in bondage in the name of love? The first time I read that I was in the" bathroom temple" I call it that because many of my life changes and ideas happen either the shower or on the throne, for some reason. I started crying. I literally put the book down and wept. Such a simple but profound line To look for love by placing yourself in bondage is to separate from it! I decided right there and then that I had to make some wholesale changes.  Placing myself in bondage in the name of love was over, no more, caput! I made a conscious decision to ask myself is this freedom or is this bondage Sometimes I slip, I find myself in situations where I place myself in bondage, then I get still and ask myself the question: Are You placing yourself in bondage in the name of Love? Placing myself in disrespectful situations Lying and betrayin...

If you aren’t secure enough in your own truth, then you might need to tear others down. If you aren’t secure enough in your own truth, you might need to go around to all your other friends and sully the image of those you feel threatened by. If you aren’t secure enough in your own truth, you might choose to be silent while the sullying happens. If you aren’t the one doing the active hurting, it might be easy to tell yourself that you aren’t involved. But you are - Life After Tampons Watch your words, and your actions. They tell a story  They are also guides as to where you are on the journey Are you complaining often? Watch that- before it turns into bitterness and resentment Complaining is praying to the devil according to the late great Bob Marley Are you whining and blaming?  Watch that - before it turns into giving away your power We can misuse and abuse our power, our innate power to live and thrive Be mindful of how you are using it When I find myself compla...

Drop down into your body and feel. Stacey Hererra My brother Kyle Jones is a boss at breaking down this, I really wanted to share this: During childhood, anytime verbal, physical, emotional or sexual abuse takes place, feelings are too painful to manage. - Being an adaptive species, you learned ways to not feel emotions and abandon the emotional body.  This emotional abandonment includes: • taking focus from your body to your head — leading to thinking rather than feeling • constant looking for love and approval — because of feeling unloved and unworthy inside  • getting depressed when experiencing loneliness, heartbreak or helplessness — rather than connecting to your feelings  • striving to become an overachiever to feel better about pain - Acts of emotional abandonment work genius on the surface; but deep inside you suffer depression, anxiety, shame and aloneness.  These feelings exist because disconnection with your emotional guidance system. Your ...

The things that can’t be taken from you: faith, hope, love. And that’s when fear disappears. (Down at Rock Bottom)   no love is wasted.   - Glennon Doyle Mellon Chatting with a friend yesterday, we  have know each other for just over a year. My friend asked me how was I doing today? I responded  that I was raising the vibes and making the best out the good out here on this good  Earth, my friend thought was a a strange response "Isn't that a strange response for someone who's life is always perfect?" "Perfect?, where did you get that idea?" My friend rattled off that I seemed to have in my possession all the things that make life perfect "Things you say?" "yes" "All external and perception my dear" I heard clothes, car, and other material possessions Perfection to me is not about the things I own, it really is about how I show up every day in the world, and how I feel about myself so I can pass on all those good fee...

Most people are living an unempowered life. When they get angry they shout. When they feel hurt, they withdraw emotionally. When they don’t want to experience the pain of feeling rejected or not having the world the way they want it to be, they work harder or have sex or take a drink and all of that is a loss of power. You lose power when you are controlled by external circumstances.  Gary Zukav Every time you face the pain, you decrease it's power, every time you leave the cookie (yes the chocolate chip cookie) you give it less power, every time you don't make that call, send that text to the partner who you know you are settling to be with for whatever reason, he/she is married, disrespectful, dishonest, stunting your growth and so on, you gain some more authentic power Authentic power according to Gary Zukav is the alignment of your soul with your personality.  You experience your soul each time you sense yourself as more than a mind and body, your life as meaning...

What thoughts do I dwell in? I have endless possibilities in which to wander and wonder in life. Caroline Myss The post below is from Caroline Myss's Wid-Bit series,it touched and resonated with me on a deep level and so I wanted to share it today...... I could spend time in inspirational thoughts, letting myself get swept into the lightness of a psalm, “God’s blessings are everywhere”. I could embrace the deep truth that, “I have everything I need.” I may not have all that I want but how much do I want?  And why do I want things? I’m not sure I’ve reflected upon that question long and hard.  I wonder what I would  discover about myself. I could wander into the rare air of truth – that life is but a very brief journey.  Do I invest this precious gift of my life regretting my past or treating each day as a new surprise?  Anything can happen. I could dwell in faith: I am blessed.  Many times, I am not sure what that means but how much do I need to ...

We all need to challenge things we've previously accepted. It's not always about jumping in, leaning in, doing more, hustling harder. But instead, retreating, stepping back, taking a break can give us the most clarity. Maxie Have you ever been in a situation where no matter how hard you pushed, tried, worked, marketed, made vision boards, affirm and hustled it wasn't happening in the way you had it all mapped out? That's been me over the last few weeks. I have learnt that when you have done all that, the next step is to surrender Surrender is about believing that it will turn out as it should after all the work has been done, all the prayers have been said and be willing to embrace that what you want may look different to what will happen because acceptance faith self belief Peace

That’s what crisis does. It comes into your life, and you have to watch everything you thought you needed fall away.   Glennon Doyle Mellon I have a very interesting relationship with the word "need" I have read and listened to a number of views about "need" and at times confuses me because I believe that many of the things that I think I need I really really don't. I want them. And then there is a part of me that thinks about how we as humans are not meant to do this gift of life alone. So here I am in the middle of needs and wants and the feelings associated with them So this is how I have rationalized it thus far I ask myself, if I believe that I cannot live without a person or thing that I wasn't born with, then it has gone past a need that is an addiction- take back the responsibility for your life Always comes down to the simple solution I thought I needed quite a few things and they all fell away in a tide, here I am still standing, I didn...

  So much of a person’s results in life are determined by his or her perceptions about themselves and the world around them. Unless you have mastered life and all your possibilities, there’s an excellent chance some of your long-held perceptions are wrong Jerry Gilles Everyday I get a reminder about letting go of perceptions and attachments Attachments in this case, can be people, places, and ways of doing things that no longer serve the growth, development and peaceful consciousness that I aim to have and the person that I want to be or even the person that I am I ask myself: Does this serve my life in a positive way? How would my life be different if I let go of this? And if I remain unconscious my life has a way of showing me that attention is required Things start happening which once I ignore blows up in my face! Have a mental inventory What are some of the things that I am holding on to that I do not use- in my house, in my apartment, in my life, where I live, t...

Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say? And to whom? –A Course in Miracles Families and Intimate relationships are the biggest containers for growth. They provide you with the tests and lessons which you are not able to get anywhere else. Your family, they know you inside out you want to be supportive and love them hard but they get on your last nerve sometimes right? Especially if they are "not listening" living their lives differently to their "potential" and not trusting you to do what you do best. Most times we want validation , want to feel needed and loved and in your own way! When does living our own lives and demonstrating by our choices a choice, or accepting and loving them the way they are an option? When is taking responsibility for our own lives and staying in our own lane an option? When is walking away and praying an option? When is acceptance of what is an option? When is pray and ...

Human beings are creatures of habit. We do what we know,what is comfortable and what we "think" will work. There are, however, those occasions when "our" way is not "the" way to get us to our goal. When your way doesn't work, don't be disheartened. You must be willing to try another way - Iyanla Vanzant Ask yourself, is the way I am approaching my goals and dreams working? Is my life working in the way I envision - am I at peace, do I feel joy, gratitude, content and love? Or am I filled with anxiety, dread, resentment and confusion? Is it manifesting itself in your life by the way you eat, or maybe drink, treat people or perhaps don't treat people? For me it is clear, I go by how I feel because I have long learnt that my feelings are guides. I ask myself how do I feel about this? And then I am willing to do something different - took a while because of course, habits, fear, not wanting to be wrong, people pleasing and sometimes pure...

“In today’s rush we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just Being.”  Eckhart Tolle Today take a pause from the rush and recognize in the moment what is in front of you, what is the joy in your present moment Today, take a pause from the rush and give thanks for the little things and see how it swells your heart Today, take a pause from the rush and rest your mind, postpone the constant chatter about what you don't have, what you need to do and who is preventing it from happening Today, take a pause from the rush and know that in that present moment all is well Today take a pause from the rush and know that you will really be okay in the end. Today take a pause from the rush to reboot, recharge, and re-cognize that rest is productive Peace

Living in your head prevents you from the full experience of your environment. It keeps you from opening your heart. It gets in the way of you inhabiting the fullness of your relationships.  Thinking about feeling is not the same as feeling. Thinking about loving is not the same as loving. Thinking about doing is not the same as doing. Thinking about expressing yourself is not the same as self expression. Thinking creates a barrier between you and your experience.  While thinking is a necessary part of this life. Experiencing IS life itself.  Drop down into your body and feel. Breathe into every single moment. Pause to take in the scene. Relish in play. Delight in laughter. Feel your way through.  Stacey Herera I'm thinking about it. How many times have you heard or perhaps said that when asked about when or what are you going to do? Thinking is important and it is indeed the first step to creation most importantly...

“ A genuine relationship is one that is not dominated by the ego with its image-making and self-seeking. In a genuine relationship, there is an outward flow of open, alert attention toward the other person in which there is no wanting whatsoever.”  ―  Eckhart Tolle I have been meeting more and more people as I speak at events. Some of them, for different reasons, find themselves in my circle where we communicate and have common interests. Some of the people that express an interest to come into the circle, I have been resisting, and I started asking myself why - I want to be non judgmental as well as flexible I check my intention behind everything now because the intention precedes the result What is my intention? Do I want something? Do I want validation? Do I want to further my cause? Do I want to be liked? And so on What is my intention and what do I feel in my gut? Once I can answer that honestly, truthfully, without negative denial then I can move forward ...

What you want? Your Soul may have other plans for you Deborah L Johnson You may have heard me say it before, but I want what I want when I want it I can bet that many of us want what we want when we want it And isn't that what we are taught about "making it" Going after what you want and not taking no for an answer? How does that philosophy tie in to what our Soul wants for us? It may not tie in because your Soul's plans trump all, whether we accept it or not Why? Your Soul has not agenda and wants what's best for you, and it really is that simple We get clues based on how our life is panning out and when we ignore it life continues to give you clues. The job, the relationships, the material things, the friends, the career, you name it the Soul gives you clues, it is up to us to pay attention Peace