No one can give if he is concerned with the result of the giving.

It is not the function of God’s teachers to evaluate the outcome of their gifts. It is merely their function to give them.
Once they have done that they have also given outcome that is part of the gift.
No one can give if he is concerned with the result of the giving.
That is a limitation of the giving itself, and neither the giver nor the receiver would have the gift. Trust is an essential part of giving in fact it is part that making sharing possible. The part that guarantees the giver will not lose but only gain,
Who gives a gift and then remains with it, to be sure it is used as the giver deems appropriate
Such is not giving but imprisoning

It is relinquishing of all concern about the gift that makes it truly given and it is trust that makes true giving possible ACIM

A Course in Miracles (ACIM) is one text that has me thinking, scratching my head sometimes, and even smiling to myself other times using some choice language.
The Course talks about our function is to give the gift and move on- as soon as we become concerned about what the receiver does with the gift, how they respond to getting the gift,the ego has been called into the equation.
Listen, I struggled with this concept for a long long time - are they saying I must give a gift and then do not give two hoots? You mean to say that I really must just leave it and do not care? No way hosay. I may have spent sooo much time, effort and money and the receiver shows no appreciation, no gratitude, nothing!??
And then I said, as the Course recommends " I am willing to see this differently" - let me practice this concept with no judgement.
OMG - the stress eliminated was enormous, I give a talk, a tithe, a compliment, a thank you, a good morning and let go, no expectations - stress eliminator I tell you - thinking about other people's response and reactions-forms very little basis on how I now give. I give my best because my gift is for giving - and that is all
What we do and how we act says something about who we are- at that moment. Our state of mind, our thinking, our self respect - this has nothing to do with the giver- so give it up. 
Peace

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

30 Things I Believe

Image
What is being of service? Looking upon another human being with kindness and compassion and not judgement is a profound act of service and though such a form of service lacks for whistles and bells, this expression of “service” comes from truly understanding the power of your soul and what it means to “look upon another with eyes of grace.” Carolyn Myss 1. I believe in sleep 2. I believe that love can cure it all  3. I believe in feeling my feelings 4. I believe that nature is my best teacher 5. I believe that friends are family minus blood lines 6. I believe that discipline and consistency combined with talent  can and will can create miracles 7. I believe in following my intuition 8. I believe that rest is part of the Journey 9. I believe in that all things are lessons that God will have us learn 10. I believe in choosing the people around you with care 11. I believe that vacations can reboot creativity  12. I believe in joy - doing what brings you joy -...
Read more

Redefinition of Lose

Rather than think about what you have to do to change a situation, consider what the situation might be doing to change you. How it might be seasoning and transforming and growing you. You are not responsible for everything and everyone. Allow that as a possibility. Jessica Dore There are some situations that are simply in your life showing you how to shift, how to be flexible, to grow, to transform. You long for change, yet you cling so to the familiar. You are so afraid of what you think you will lose. You are even afraid to lose the things you don't want. The familiar becomes your family, regardless of what it is. let's redefine "lose" I define lose as opening up to a new possibility The day I stopped saying that I lost my house, lost my marriage, lost my mind, things shifted for me The shift has to start inside How we define and relate to the circumstances in our lives transforms how we act. I started asking myself different question...
Read more

What Does Support Look Like to You?

Image
  You save yourself energy when you learn to ask people what they need, instead of assuming you know best then acting on your own impulses. Allowing people to define what support looks like gives you an ability to assess if you have the capacity to show up - Minaa B If someone asks you right now, what does support look like to you, what would be your answer? It takes self reflection , self awareness and more importantly a whole load of authenticity to answer. On the flip side, do you rush to support others without them even asking- there may be times when that is required, however many a time we assume that we know what others want and need. The times when we do assume, after a while a feeling of resentment builds because "how could they be so ungrateful?" or "why are they not seeing their need for my help?" the other classic is "they must need my help to show them because they clearly are not seeing that they need support" We continue to assume what othe...
Read more