What would you do differently?

“If we weren’t trying to control whether a person liked us or his or her reaction to us, what would we do differently? If we weren’t trying to control the course of a relationship, what would we do differently? If we weren’t trying to control another person’s behavior, how would we think, feel, speak, and behave differently than we do now? What haven’t we been letting ourselves do while hoping that self-denial would influence a particular situation or person? Are there some things we’ve been doing that we’d stop? How would we treat ourselves differently? Would we let ourselves enjoy life more and feel better right now? Would we stop feeling so bad? Would we treat ourselves better? If we weren’t trying to control, what would we do differently? Make a list, then do it.” 
― Melody Beattie


Many of our decisions are based on what other people would say, think or want us to do. How did we get to that place? What about doing what brings you peace, joy, love, harmony and doing the best for yourself? Uncertainty, being right, having our own way got us to that place! A Course in Miracles teaches that the sense of separation is what causes us to make these decisions and it is more times than not, it brings you peace to be happy rather than to be right. A sense of separation means we believe that people are separated, disconnected and different to us, we judge ourselves as better and we love to be liked!

Newsflash- you are not in control of everything and definitely not in control of anyone else! So do your best, do what makes you happy, sometimes this may piss people off (no I am not not saying to be a complete a-hole). Find some level of comfort with uncertainty and letting go and see how the magic unfolds!

Peace